Ten Things to Do While Mercury Is In Retrograde
If you haven't noticed, we've been experiencing the effects of Mercury in retrograde. It's in retrograde December 2-22, so we've still got a ways to go before the imbalanced environment shifts back to something close to normal. If I'm honest with myself 2017 has been out of balance, but these retrogrades have been especially tilted. I took a moment to reflect on some of the most productive activities to take on during the retrograde.
Commitments made during a Mercury retrograde cycle are most often commitments not kept. Don't make travel plans, don't sign any contracts, don't travel if you can help it. We are all being forced to loosen our grip on one or more situations in order to prepare for what is coming.
1. Get lots of rest, drink lots of water and meditate.
While the earth appears to be moving backwards, it can often feel like the spring daylight savings time. The earth isn't really moving backwards by the way, it's more of an optical illusion. The eye tricks us enough for it to feel real. Because this may happen for you rest water and spiritual renewal will be key during this cycle. There are lots of great podcasts that you can listen to that will work well on the go. I tune in to Mary Maddox's Meditation Oasis regularly, because she provides a variety of brief podcasts that work for me.
2. Re-read your journal entries to reflect on growth.
If you journal on a regular basis it often helps to look back through your own words and writing for the year. I am not a believer in New Year's resolutions, but journal revisits can serve as a resolve to do better, to be easier on yourself because your growth will be evident in your writing. You are only competing with yourself. There is only one you on this planet. The more you spend time improving on the design the more efficient your efforts will be. Take this time of uncertainty to be your best self when the cycle ends.
3. Write about your feelings that come up during this cycle.
You can't control others in any season, but the unpredictable nature of others during this cycle will be fierce. I've personally found people to be extremely cantankerous. I tend to lash out a bit when people are being unreasonable. To prevent indulging in mean girl pettiness (I specialize, and struggle at the same time) I often turn to writing.
This blog is a direct response to my internal struggle with the behavior of others. A reality that I am forced to face is this: behaviors that trigger me are behaviors I want to change about myself. The more I say this to myself and work through my words and feelings the better I respond next time. I have little tolerance for bad behavior in general without this cycle interfering, but this time period makes it ten times worse. I've decided to create a positive out of this negative. It is this blog. I am sharing the things I do as a selfish act. I hope you all decide to do your own work so my triggers aren't so easily accessed. Hope it works!
4. Spend time alone.
Some people get their energy from external sources (extroverts), while others must retreat to be reenergized (introverts). I identify as an ambivert, but I lean towards introversion. During this cycle there is great value in purposely spending time alone. It's all about balance. If you can not store any energy for yourself and constantly have to recharge yourself with external factors, this cycle may prove to be difficult for you. Try and start by setting aside time where you will turn off your technology and just be silent. Meditation doesn't come naturally to everyone. Developing a meditation practice that doesn't involve an external factor (like a podcast or going to a group session) could be really helpful during this time. Don't be too hard on yourself if you struggle in this area. The world is full of distractions, this is a discipline that really takes time.
5. If you're planning to be social engage with people you have strong existing relationships with.
Now is a good time to focus on the stable things in your life. If you decide to get out into the world and be social be sure to have a clear exit strategy if you are not amongst close friends only. People can be super weird right now. Brunch with besties, happy hour with a sister, lunch dates with your mate can prove to be most energizing, but all it takes is one new friend at the table and the entire vibe can get out of wack. I've stuck with my old trues, and been cordial with my less consistent friends. But grounded stable people will be attractive at this time. Stick with them.
6. It's okay to say no, or at least not right now.
I can't stress this one enough. Sometimes you save everyone else by removing yourself from the equation. When I get a call from a girlfriend and she mentions some people are coming that I don't know I already feel like I should say no. If I do go I am usually only thinking about my exit strategy. I rarely ride with others places, I almost always drive myself. If the vibe is off, or if you know you're just not up to it JUST SAY NO.
7. Listen to your gut.
This is just reinforcement for number 5 and 6. Know thyself. If you feel like you're about to pop off, excuse yourself. If you see someone else going that direction, get out of their way if possible. If you want to avoid drama the best way is to listen to your inner voice. If you live for the drama, by all means flip the table sis!!! (don't flip the table, you'll be escorted out)
8. Love on yourself.
Because numbers 5, 6, and 7 likely mean you've done too much during a retrograde cycle. Forgive yourself for cutting up in public, cussing somebody out, over sharing on social media, ruining relationships and flipping your hair on the way out. There are no mistakes in the universe. That read led you to a truth, even if it involved blocking or getting blocked. You needed to break up with him, he wasn't your soul mate. Your kids are spoiled and they do take you for granted. Forgive yourself and forgive others without being asked.
Because it's the winter, and you're ashy. Stock up on #CoconutOil. Stock up on essential oils like eucalyptus, peppermint and tea tree oil. Add them to your bubble bath and come out slick and shiny. There are few problems that can't be solved by moisturizing baby. #TeamMoisturize forever!!!
10. Be kind to others.
Just think about all the people you will encounter that didn't read this blog. None of them will know how important it is not to come for you, especially since you didn't send for them. So be kind in dealing with these ashy people. They have no idea that Mercury retrograde is impacting their decision making skills right now! Take a moment to recall all the work you've done on yourself when they try and test your gangsta. Just think of all the good karma coming your way when you DON'T snatch their edges!!! Bless the people with your shiny moisturized realness and get out of their way. Maybe they will learn from your excessive cool under immense pressure. YOU GOT THIS!!!!
Stay aware and plan ahead of the upcoming 2018 Mercury Retrograde cycles: March 22 to April 15 July25 to August 18 November 16 to December 6